Things to Consider When Looking for Daycare

Putting Your Little One into Daycare

It can be unsettling to leave your new baby in the hands of other people, but for most families, two incomes are a necessity. That means both parents must return to work, and someone must watch the baby. There are plenty of options available, from Grandma to nannies to babysitters, but the most common option in the U.S. is daycare. More affordable than a nanny and more reliable than a grandparent- no offense intended, Grandma! – daycare is the practical solution for many families.

Advantages of Daycare

Daycare can happen at a daycare center or at someone’s home, and it offers many benefits, both for the parents and the child. In a good daycare center, children get plenty of supervised socialization, under the watchful eye of nurturing, qualified caregivers. Daycare centers are reliable, open on a set schedule, and typically provide care from infancy through toddlerhood, and sometimes even into the elementary school years. They have set schedules and policies, and follow specific caregiver to child ratios, depending on age.

Drawbacks of Daycare

While daycare is comparatively inexpensive, it can still add up. If you have multiple children, a nanny may be a more cost-effective solution. Another drawback is that babies who attend daycare are exposed to more germs than those who stay home or with a family member, so you can expect your child to get sick more often. Of course, there is a theory that this strengthens the immune system and makes them less likely to contract illnesses in later childhood, but that is not always the case. Additionally, when your child gets sick, it increases your likelihood of catching the same illness, resulting in missed work. And while daycare centers have pretty reliable hours, they tend to run on the local school schedule and may be closed on holidays.

Comparing In-Home Daycare to a Center

Daycare centers are licensed by the state, and have different groups for different ages, much like a school. By contrast, in-home daycare is, as the name implies, run in someone’s home. Typically, an in-home daycare provider has children at home and is taking in other people’s children to facilitate being a stay at home parent. Some states require in-home providers to be licensed, but not all, so pay attention to your state’s laws while considering your options. And while daycare centers have a staff of trained and licensed providers, in-home daycare doesn’t require training. In a home, children are typically not separated by age, and there is often not a defined child-to-caregiver ration. What’s more, if an in-home caregiver gets sick, you will need to find your own backup, but because daycare centers have a full staff, there is always a sub at the ready. Still, many parents prefer in-home daycare, because there are fewer children, and that can mean fewer illnesses and more one-on-one attention.

Choosing the Right Daycare for Your Child

So, how do you determine which daycare is right for your child? Start by doing some research. Because many high-quality daycares have waiting lists, it is wise to start this process before the baby is born. Get recommendations from people you know, including friends, family members, and your pediatrician. Check the daycare’s accreditation, hours, and references, and if something seems “off”, cross it off your list. Visit the center in person to see if it meets your expectations, and pay attention to things like interactions between caregivers and children, sanitation practices, and safety measures. Before you make your final decision, drop by unannounced in the middle of the day to see how it truly operates, when no one is expecting you.  Finally, ask questions, to make sure it is the right fit for your family. These questions can include things like:

• What is your childcare philosophy?
• What is your child-to-caregiver ratio?
• How much experience/training do your caregivers have?
• Are the children always separated by age/developmental stage?
• What is your policy on illness?
• How do you handle problems like a defiant child or a baby who won’t stop crying?
• What is the daily schedule?
• Do you provide food, or do the parents bring it in?
• How involved are the parents?
• How do you handle parent communication?
• Do the children leave the center at any time?
• Are there cameras in the center to allow parents to observe?
• How do you handle security?

Come up with other questions, based on your concerns, and make sure the daycare you choose can answer them appropriately. Then, once you’ve enrolled your child, be sure to keep communication flowing, so that you and your child’s caregivers can have a cooperative relationship that is beneficial to all of you.

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How Fighting with Your Partner in Front of Your Kids Can Impact Them

The Reality of Fighting with Your Partner

No matter how healthy the relationship, two people living together are eventually going to have disagreements. Parents are no exception, and the occasional squabble is to be expected. Fighting between parents becomes problematic, though, when it escalates into heightened conflict. Research indicates that high conflict parental relationships can have a negative impact on the children. Do you know how to handle your disputes in a way that is healthy for your family?

How Fighting Affects You

Whether you are physically fighting or just having a heated argument, it takes a toll on your body. Because of the well-documented fight or flight response that all humans have, your body will have certain physical reactions. Because your body will need more oxygen, your breathing rate will increase, and you may feel like you are choking or suffocating, or you may experience chest tightness and pain. The blood supply to your head may decrease, making you feel dizzy and lightheaded, and it may even blur your vision. You may experience dry mouth, nausea, and diarrhea because of increased digestive activity, and your large muscle groups may tense up, causing you to feel exhausted, with aches and pains. You might even tremble or shake.

How Your Fights Affect Your Children

When parents fight in front of their children, it negatively affects the children, too. It increases their stress hormones, disrupts the way they process emotions, hampers their cognitive performance, and increases their risk of depression. Seeing their parents fight makes children feel insecure and concerned about the stability of their family, and it can damage the relationship between the parents and children. Frequent or intense fighting creates a frightening stressful environment, and it can interfere with their normal, healthy development. Worse, parental conflict can cause long-term mental health effects. Children whose parents fight often may experience decreased cognitive performance in the long term and can limit their ability to form healthy relationships. It can lead to behavioral problems like increased aggression and delinquency and has even been linked to issues like eating disorders, substance use, and a negative outlook on life. There is extensive research to show that a high-conflict environment in childhood can lead to a host of problems in adulthood.

Mitigating the Impact of Conflict

So, what can you do to create a safe home environment for your children? People have disagreements, but it is important to manage your disputes in a way that is healthy for all involved. Start by trying not to fight in front of the children. If you find that a discussion is beginning to get heated, take a time out to regroup. Model effective problem solving strategies, and refrain from destructive practices like name-calling, insults, threats of leaving, physical aggression, giving the silent treatment, or just giving in. Rather, talk to your partner in a calm moment and agree to certain ground rules, like taking turns to talk, validating each other’s feelings and point of view, and being respectful and courteous. If you do argue in front of the children, talk about it with them. Reassure them that it is not their fault, and it is not an indication of bigger problems. Let them know you are still a strong family, and that people can love each other, even if they disagree. If you feel like you cannot control your disagreements and remain respectful, seek counseling to help you resolve your differences and find productive solutions.

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At the Center for Vasectomy Reversal, we love helping people start their healthy, happy families, and we pride ourselves on helping men improve their fertility through uncompromising, concierge-level patient care. Under the direction of Dr. Joshua Green, our team provides state-of-the-art treatment for men who need a reversal of their vasectomy or have other fertility concerns. To learn more about the work we do or our discounts for active duty military and veterans, contact us through our website or call 941-894-6428.